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SEE ALL» · Europe forums · Russia forum Scam dating sites are saturated with sexy girls under St. Petersburg Visa-Free 2-Day Shore. You can find a lot information about Russian dating scam artists in the Internet, we . In a few days she's got her visa, now she needs money to buy a ticket. The internet dating scams include some common elements: a U.S. visa,; Claims that they must buy airline tickets only in Russia,; Use of professional models'.
We suggest contacting the money transfer agency or your credit card company to ascertain their policies in such cases. I want to lodge a complaint with the Russian government and the U. Who do I contact? Embassy is a diplomatic mission and not a law enforcement agency, you will need to go through the appropriate law enforcement channels, should you believe you are a victim of fraud.
You may contact law enforcement authorities in your area. For information on contacting law enforcement officials in Russia, you may try contacting the Russian Embassy in the United States at: How much money are visitors required to show? To receive a U. Can you recommend a travel agency I can send the money and have them buy the ticket? The Embassy cannot suggest or verify the validity of private companies or organizations within Russia, nor can the embassy purchase tickets.
Tickets can easily be purchased in the United States directly from the air carriers for Russian citizens. In addition, applicants are NOT required to have a ticket prior to the visa interview. In fact, applicants are counseled NOT to buy tickets or make arrangements until they have the visa in hand. Scammers will cite fictitious American or Russian regulations requiring that the tickets be purchased in Russia with cash in order to get the cash sent overseas.
What is the procedure for Russians to get a tourist visa? All visa applications are submitted to a Russian courier service — Pony Express — for delivery to the Embassy. However, there are no additional fees, nor any requirements to show traveling money. Once an applicant submits their application, they are immediately scheduled for an appointment to appear for an interview within the following 10 days or within 21 days during peak travel seasons. At the appointment at the Embassy, the applicant is interviewed by an American Consular officer and is immediately told whether he or she is eligible for the visa.
What are Russian women looking for? In general all Russian women are looking for a trustful, reliable, healthy and respectful husband who lives a normal life under normal circumstances with an acceptable financial living standard to support a family under normal conditions. I use the word 'normal' many times, I want to express that these women are not specific looking for rich men. They don't need 2 cars, a TV in every room, 2 boats, 2 houses and 5 times a year a holiday.
But they are also not looking for a man who likes to drink a lot or uses drugs now and then or don't have enough means to support a family or is just lazy, or being only a housekeeper after he finally married her.
And they certainly are not looking for a one time adventure. Maybe you ask yourself why Russian women sometimes write down these specific qualifications. For me this answer is very easy. If you meet some woman in your 'own' neighborhood, she will find out by herself how you are living, what kind of man you are, what kind of job, hobbies, interests you have, how you clean your house is and how you iron your shirts.
But for Russian women this is more difficult, she only can 'know' these things because you are 'writing' this to her.
She actually cannot 'see' it by herself, she lives too far away for just a short visit which for the US is impossible to doto see e. For this reason, Russian women will ask you many times about these things, and if not, you should tell her these things by yourself.
These items are very important for her, because she needs to create the right or correct image of the man she intends to live with. The one's that might aware or unaware disappoint you: But unfortunately there is also a very small group of most of the times very young Russian women who only are looking for a 'ticket' green card to the US or other Western country. Most of these young women are even not aware of the 'impossible' future they try to create.
You can recognize these women if you have a normal knowledge of human character. These women doesn't want to take month's before they want to meet you preferable in your country and without detailed knowledge about what kind of man you arealso these women don't mind at all if you are 20 years or more older than they are.
And usually they will not talk or write about very profound personal interests or very private matters.
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In fact they act sometimes like high school girls, are already writing that they love you in their third letter and are not afraid to talk about money.
They will often tell you that they are really looking forward to 'live in your country', instead of saying 'living with you'.
It is not self-evident that these women are 'scams', they are just too young to know that most of these large-age-difference relationships not always work out as they expect to be. The first line I wrote to my current husband was: They can make your head going out of control. Imagine, a 21 beautiful young woman, a really knock out, who is in love with an 43 year old western man. If this will ever happen to you, please ask yourself, why this very young woman is attracted to a much older man?
After that, ask her the same question and try to evaluate her answers about this fact, and talk with others e. Of course there are many examples that this age difference really can work, but to be honest and not to discourage you, I interviewed different Russian women about this subject and they all answered that they in general prefer men of their own age.
Of course they don't mind reasonable age difference more than western women dobut like I said, in an acceptable way. My husband is 9 years older than me and I have no problem with that, beside that, we both have reached an age above 35 that we made our decision based on mutual mature life experience. There is a big difference between an age difference for example, she 20 and you 40 then for example, she 35 and you Just try to keep it within reasonable age difference, I thought you are looking for a Russian 'wife' and not for a 'daughter'?
How can I recognize these kind of 'women'? These women are most of the time very young comparing to your age She tells you how nice it would be to live in your beautiful 'country', instead of telling you how nice it would be to live with 'you''.
In general, she wants to come to your country very soon, but not for you as the main reason. The real bad 'guys': And there are also women and men who work in an organized way. They almost never 'work' alone and can be very convincing to you that they will be the perfect wife for you.
In fact these 'women' are often 'men' faking like you are corresponding with a real woman. But sometimes it also can be a real woman who is trying to fraud you. I know a story of a man who visited a woman after she invited him for the first time in Ukraine but this also can be Russia or other CIS country and this woman arranged for him with help of some 'friends' an apartment and other practical matters.
Then she showed him a lot of fake very expensive bills and asked him to pay her. When he didn't want to pay this crazy and unacceptable amount of money, she blackmailed him by threatening him to go to the local police, if he didn't want to pay her.
Of course he had no choice, because you never know how many people are involved in this kind of 'fraud' and he never would have had any chance or even worse. How can I recognize these kind of 'persons'? In many ways, but I give you a few identifications: A single identification doesn't automatically means that she is a 'scam', but more than 3 combinations is enough information to start to be cautious.
But any 'money' issue, especially if she is asking for it or if she takes the initiative to talk about money, is considered as an important identification of possible scam. So, should I stop looking for a Russian woman?
Does it scares you? Please don't, it's only a minor part 0. Don't get paranoid about this, you can do many things by yourself to avoid a possible scam and if you do it right, it doesn't need to cost you a lot of money.
Always try to be positive, don't think that behind every corner there will be someone waiting for you to get rid of your money. And do not forget that many Russian women are afraid for the same thing too. It's not only the 'women' who are trying to 'play' with men, there are a lot of weird Western men too, who just are looking for some 'action' or a one time adventure with a beautiful Russian girl or woman and just drop them like dirt when they don't need them anymore.
One of my best Russian friend has had this kind of experience with an American man. So, both parties man and woman will be insecure and cautious, before they 'open' themselves completely to each other. How can I protect myself from unreliable women: Ok, I know this sounds stupid, but this could be a 'safe' way to start your journey to find yourself a trustful and reliable woman.
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If you are looking for a cheaper and also safe way: Don not lose you common sense and use your common knowledge of human character and always keep both feet on ground Many men lose their heads if they see a picture of a real knock-out, especially if this knock-out is interesting in him. It looks like they are drugged and it will take away their 'feelers' that should warn him when he scents 'danger'. The world looks pink to him and walks on clouds, but he doesn't notice that he is already taking his wallet to help this young beautiful woman who lives in such a 'cruel' world called Russia.
Ok, I know I am exaggerating, but be warned, this kind of people can really use very credible stories to convince you their reliability, by using very dirty tricks. Forgive me for saying this, but I am a woman and allow myself to say this men in general can be very naive during moments they should be very attentive. Read her letters like it is your employment contract I receive often questions of men who are suspicious about their current contact with a lady. When I start to ask more information about the correspondence and receive copy of letters, I very often can recognize possible scam.
You should do this too, just to 'learn' how these people write their letters. Ask the woman to explain to you why she likes you and what she is really looking for. This question can be very important for you.
You can judge from her answer if it sounds acceptable, or reasonable or not. Skip the superlatives in her answer and try to read 'between' the lines.
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Especially when there is a big age difference between her and you, her answer can be of great importance of your possible suspicious thoughts about her. If you are a man over 45, bold, having a small overweight belly and smoking cigars and she is beautiful and only 24 years young, then never accept her answer that you are so handsome. Be honest with yourself. If she really likes you which of course is possible then she really must give you a very good and above all, realistic and acceptable reason to explain to you why.
Ask her things about her private life, family, friends, work, postal address, birth date, phone numbers etc. People who try to fraud you, don't like to give a way such sensitive information.
Because they know you easily check this information. Ask some specific questions in your letters and check if she really gives answers on your specific questions. If people indeed are trying to fraud you, then you are not the only one they are corresponding with.
They often use pre-printed text and after the second and third letter they use similar text which can be used for other men too.
Of course some answers are answers on your questions you send to here, but it is important to read 'how' they write their answers and what kind of 'English' they use. If she starts to talk about 'money' Don't get paranoid at once. It depends in what way she is talking about money.
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And, more important, in what phase of your relationship with her, are you both in. Supporting her financially, for only matters related to e. If the woman has no financial means for herself than you should help her. But never send her a penny before you ever met her in person!He was scammed!! Beware of Online Dating!
They can be very convincing to you why she needs money. It can start with a few dollars to pay her Internet fees for emailing you, or she can talk about money for the phone at the post office.
Jut don't send money to her. First visit her and see if you both really have or can have a serious relationship. Our advice related to your first meeting with her Go to her country and spend as long time as possible with her.
In this way you are the one who controls all the expenses to visit her, like applying for a visa, arranging tickets, hotel reservation etc. Be sure, it's you who is doing all these arrangements. Never let her do any arrangements for you, by sending her money. It is not too difficult to do this all by yourself or use an official travel Agency who will do that for you.
If you read all the pages of our web site, you will find many information about the 'First Meeting'. If not enough, just write us and we will try to help you. But if she starts to talk about sending money, even before you both ever met each other, then don't do anything.